Why I will Never Enter into a Marriage Contract Again (no matter how lonely I get)?

by Brother of Darkness
(USA)

1. My ex-wife, who is a Muslimah, committed adultery in our marriage; because of this, I have grown to the spiritual point of finding the act of sex to be primitive and disgusting and I have no desire to ever sleep with a woman ever again. It has been over 10 years since I last touched a woman, the last being the wife who betrayed me, and I have no sexual desires left, Alhamdulillah.

2.Brothers: if the following criteria is not you, then you can forget about having a successful marriage-

-a. Unless you make more than $50000.00 a year, you will never be able to truly keep her safe and happy and be able to support the family.

-b. If you are not in a professional career like a doctor,lawyer, or the such, then you will never satisfy her, and her family will probably despise you for being anything less, and so will others in the community.

-c. If you don't do a big and expensive Valimah, you are doomed....I say this because I hated my own Valimah and the marriage started off poor, just because tradition said I have to make everyone else happy.

-d. After marriage, you will watch your Iman (faith) take a heavy hit and drop because you will be trying to keep her happy and your remembrance of Allah will suffer greatly.

-e. Just remember, brothers, that in the minds of the modern female, you are replaceable. I know: i was replaced.

3. Having doubts about a successful marriage? Then stay away from it and leave the women, children, sex, and marriage business for someone else to take on. It's not worth losing your Iman over.
Allah forgive me but someone had to come out and say the truths' that no one wants to say.

I do miss having family....but my iman is not worth the price....and the price of modern Islamic companionship is too high for me.

4. To my wonderful but over concerned brothers and sisters in Islam: stop trying to force me to re-marry; you are wasting your time. At least I knew when to quit while I was behind 10 years ago....and celibacy is better than constant failure and multiple divorces'.