My Husband is a muslim, and I am a Roman Chatolic (Christian). He is 21 year old when we get married and I am 22 at that time, further to it, We get married in a (civil wedding, not in my church) without his parents consent.Last 2004 month of june, sadly we broke at same year month of august.. until then we never seeing each other. My question is ?? can i get married again to a another man? because its almost 7years we dont see each other..I dont fined there is a hope for it ?? thanks.. hope I can find answer in this.
Jul 12, 2010 Rating
Parental consent not required for Nikkah by: Anonymous
Your post is a couple of years old so I hope that the situation has been resolved.
According to Islamic law, parental consent nor a consent from an Imam is not required for 2 sane adults to get married. You don't even need an Imam to perform the Nikkah. My dad who is a regular guy with a regular job, led prayers and also performed Nikkah. You are required:
1. Mutual consent to get married
2. 2 Male witnesses or 1 Male & 2 Female
3. Agreed upon Mahr
I can see where you dad is coming from. He just wants his daughter to be taken care of rather than taken advantage of. If a guy has a college degree, he typically has more earning potential.
Sep 02, 2008 Rating
Marriage of Fornicators by: Saqib-Admin
A valid Islamic marriage contract needs a man and a woman of competency, of sound mind and with free consent to accept their mutual rights and obligations. Quran says:
“O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their wills” (4/19)
It is a direction to the Muslims to protect right of free consent of a woman. Without a free consent there can be no Islamic marriage. On the other hand there are strong differences on the role of Guardian in a Muslim Marriage. Quran is silent on the issue. Some Ahadiths make it compulsory for ‘Bakira’ (virgin) women to have consent of their guardians. Some Muslim Jurists believe that in Arab girls were married on just acquiring the capability so role of Guardian was accepted to a limited level. Some reject the role of Guardian altogether. In Pakistani law there is no role of Guardians for a valid Islamic marriage. However, a woman can appoint her attorney if she likes. In most of the marriages here the direct consent of the bride is sought before getting her signatures on the Marriage License.
An inference to your particular situation may be drawn from this Ayah of Quran:
“Let no man guilty of adultery or fornication marry and but a woman similarly guilty, or an Unbeliever: nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry such a woman: to the Believers such a thing is forbidden.” (24:3)
There are differences on meanings of the Ayah. However, this Ayah seems talking about a situation that of you.
As far as your past dating with the person just converted is concerned, Quran speaks:
“And those who, having done something to be ashamed of, or wronged their own souls, earnestly bring Allah to mind, and ask for forgiveness for their sins,- and who can forgive sins except Allah.- and are never obstinate in persisting knowingly in (the wrong) they have done.” (3/135)
In my humble opinion, Islam does not require services of Imam at all. However, if available they are just for ceremonial matters. You may marry the person just converted to Islam. You neither need consent of your parents nor of the Imam. Your legal marriage shall be Islamic if it contains:
1- Two witnesses, preferably Muslim Males 2- Your Dower specified 3- Any other term and condition mutually agreed.
(Note: I have suggested in good faith. There might be difference of opinion but I have answered as I have understood the issue in the light of Quran, opinion of Jurists and law of Pakistan).
Sep 01, 2008 Rating
My Detials by: Original Poster
I am a Muslim and my parents are also Muslims. I live in Canada. I am allowed to get married via the courts legally but according to Islamic law I can't without consent. I still live with my parents and want to do this the right way. The Imam stated that he will not do the marriage because my father did not give consent and due to the fact that we had dated which was un-islamic. We both have started praying, we are asking for forgiveness about us dating, and are trying to become better Muslims. Now with my father he is upset because this man that I want to marry does not have as follows: a degree I have one but he doesn't, when he was 20 with his past girlfriend he had a child. He is not involved with the child as per the mothers request, he converted to Islam which they don't believe he is, and I think because we are both from different cultures that also adds to our problem. We don't know what to do anymore or who to go to. We just want to do the Nikha (Muslim Marriage) and don't know who can help us with out having consent.
Sep 01, 2008 Rating
Missing Information by: Saqib-Admin
To Suheir!
There are certain chunks of missing information. Please provide replies to these questions:
1- What is your religion?
2- What is religion of your parents?
3- In which country do you live?
4- What does the law of your country say about guradian's permission?
5- What reasons your father forward for not granting the permission?
